A Snapshot of What Matters

I don’t usually send more than one email a day, but something nudged me to share this moment with you.

A quick note before we begin.

I don’t usually send more than one email in a day, but I felt nudged to send this one. Not from urgency, not from emotion — just a quiet pull from my spirit.

Everywhere I look online right now, I’m seeing conversation after conversation drowning in absolutism. Advice delivered as if it applies to every story, every family, every soul.

And I just kept thinking… if I’m seeing this much misguided certainty, then you might be seeing it too.
And maybe a gentle message from my lane, from my lived experience, might steady something in you the way it steadied something in me.

So that’s why you’re getting this note.
Not because it’s urgent.
But because it felt right.

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There Are No Absolutes

Lately it feels like everyone is throwing advice at each other like confetti.
How to manifest better. How to fix your relationships. How to heal your estranged family. How to align with your soul.

And it’s all so… absolute.

Do this first.
Never do that.
Always follow this process.
Here’s the five-step formula.

But here’s what everyone seems to be forgetting:

Your life is intensely personal.

Your reactions.
Your shortcomings.
Your capacity to forgive.
Your vision for what comes next.

All of it belongs to you.
Which means there can’t be a one-size-fits-all answer.
There can’t be a panacea.
There can’t be a perfect process that works for every person in every story.

We’re not built on a conveyor belt.

I’m one of those parents whose adult child went no contact

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And the amount of advice I’ve received—solicited and otherwise—could fill a stadium.

“You must have done something.”
“Give them space.”
“Reach out anyway.”
“Stop trying so hard.”
“Try harder.”

All delivered with absolute certainty.

Here’s what I finally learned:

None of it matters.
Not because the advice is wrong.
But because it’s not mine.

What matters is this:

Can I find a posture, a lane, an acceptance of my life exactly as it is—without strangers online telling me whether I’m doing it right?

Can I stop letting everyone else’s certainty interrupt my relationship with my own source, my own soul, my own spirit?

Because the moment I let all that noise in, I become part of the problem.
I stop listening to the intuition and the nudges that are meant for me.
And I start performing someone else’s script.

So here’s what I’m saying:

Choose who you let influence you, yes.
But don’t let anyone—including me—tell you there’s only one way.

Your life is personal.
Your healing is personal.
Your path is personal.

And the only absolute I’ll stand behind is this:

The answer for you will come from within you.
Not from a guru.
Not from a five-step plan.
Not from someone online who thinks they know better.

From your own soul.
Your own source.
Your own inner knowing.

Everything else is just noise.

With love,

Monica