For the Woman Over 60 Who Feels Like She Missed the Memo

I wrote back

A few days ago, I responded to a woman’s comment in a Facebook group called Women Over 60. She was anonymous—just a name with no photo—but her words cracked something open in me. She said she felt like she had missed the memo on how to do life right. That everyone else seemed to be thriving while she was still trying to figure out where she went wrong.

So I wrote back.

What I didn’t expect was for that comment to take on a life of its own. Hundreds of women reacted, shared it, saved it. One even said, “I feel like you read my soul out loud.”

So I thought… maybe my Substack readers need to hear it too.

Because this isn’t just for one woman—it’s for all of us who’ve ever felt behind, broken, or invisible after 60. This is what I wish someone had said to me when I was spinning in circles, wondering why I couldn’t just “get it together.”

Here’s what I wrote:

Oh, beautiful anonymous sister…

You didn’t miss the memo. You just weren’t handed a script that fit your soul.

That thing you wrote? That wasn’t a pity party. That was a warrior’s inventory.

You’ve jumped out of planes. Cared for dying parents. Survived illness, grief, isolation, heartbreak. You’ve tried everything to climb out of a hole you didn’t dig—and you’re still standing. Still searching. Still telling the truth.

That isn’t weakness.

That’s resistance without recognition.
That’s surviving without applause.
That’s being a damn miracle in plain sight.

And if nobody told you lately, let me be the one to say it:

You are not broken. You are bone-deep tired from being your own village for too long.

You don’t need to fix yourself. You need to come home to yourself.

And that looks like:

• Resting without guilt
  
  

• Creating without pressure
  
  

• Connecting without performance
  
  

• Moving your body because it feels like self-trust, not self-punishment
  
  

You’re not lazy. You’re grieving. You’re not negative.
You’re just exhausted from being positive for people who never showed up for you. You’re not behind. You’re just on your own sacred timing—and it starts with moments like this.

You already did the thing. You showed up. You spoke. You opened the door.

And we see you. I see you.

Not as a project. Not as a problem.

As a woman with grit in her voice and gold in her bones.

You don’t owe the world a performance of okay-ness.
You owe yourself the gentleness you’ve given everyone else.

You’ve got this. One nudge at a time.

And when the day comes that you post under your real name and say,
“I did the thing,”
you better believe I’ll be right here saying:
“Hell yes, she did.”

From one woman in the rebuilding to another—
Keep going.

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If you’re still reading, that tells me something.

It tells me you’ve been carrying too much for too long.
It tells me you’re ready—not for more pressure, but for more truth.
It tells me there’s still a voice inside you whispering, “There’s more life for me than this.”

And I believe there is.

If this post stirred something awake in you—if you felt even one sentence like a spotlight on your soul—go get REFOUNDATION. Don’t talk yourself out of it. Don’t tell yourself it’s not the right time. Implement the prompts, now, to live your life that feels good to YOU.

You’ve waited long enough. You’re not here by accident.
And you are not too late to rebuild a life that actually feels like yours.

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Then come back and tell me: “I did the thing.”

I’ll be here—clapping like hell.

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