How I Accidentally Blocked My Own Success—And You Might Be Too

The sneaky habit that keeps dreams just out of reach (and why I’m done with it for good)

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For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a responsible, practical woman. A thinker. A planner. A just-in-case kind of gal.

I don’t just chase dreams—I prepare for them. I strategize. I map out every step, and just in case something goes wrong, I always make sure to have a Plan B.

Sounds smart, right? Sounds responsible. Sounds like a woman who’s got her sh*t together.

Except…

I just had the most ridiculous, gut-busting realization.

I have spent my whole damn life preparing for failure.

I laughed so hard when it hit me—because I heard it plain as day in my own head:
"Monica, you block your own success by always planning for what you’ll do if it doesn’t happen."

WELL, DAMN.

See, I thought I was being responsible, making sure I had a backup plan. But in reality? I was harnessing the power of doubt. I was treating my dreams like something fragile, something that needed a safety net, instead of something inevitable.

I was using my mind—my greatest superpower—to plan for lack instead of to expect abundance.

And let’s be clear, the universe notices that.

Because when you build a Plan B, you’re secretly telling yourself: I don’t fully believe in Plan A. I don’t fully trust this dream. I need an escape hatch in case I fail.

And the universe? It’s listening.

"Oh, you’re making a backup plan? Got it. You must not be ready to receive this yet. I’ll just hold onto it until you are."

And just like that, we delay the very thing we claim to want.

What if you didn’t entertain it?

What if you didn’t even think about what you’d do if your dream didn’t work out?

Because guess what?

Dreams require a leap.
Not a step.
Not a slow shuffle forward.
A LEAP.

So here’s my new plan—No more Plan B.

THE IRRESPONSIBILITY OF A PLAN B

I was today years old when I realized: having a backup plan isn’t responsible—it’s a damn liability.

We’ve been taught to think that Plan B is wise. That it’s mature. That it’s what smart people do.

But what if… it’s actually the most irresponsible thing we can do?

Think about it.

We have this ridiculous superpower—our mind—capable of imagining, creating, and calling things into existence.

And instead of using it to visualize success… we use it to build escape routes.

Instead of letting our thoughts create momentum toward our dreams, we use them to quietly reinforce doubt.

I mean, let’s be real—what do you think has a better shot of happening?

🔹 Option A: The person who burns the boats, refuses to let doubt take up space in their mind, and assumes success is the only option.

🔹 Option B: The person who hopes things work out but also spends a lot of time making sure there’s a backup plan—just in case.

We all know who’s more likely to succeed.

Not because they’re better. Not because they’re luckier.

But because they’re not giving failure an invitation to the party.

WHAT HAPPENS IF WE STOP GIVING FAILURE A FOOTHOLD?

This is where things get really interesting.

What if—just for a little while—you stopped allowing failure to be an option?

What if you didn’t entertain it?

What if you didn’t even think about what you’d do if your dream didn’t work out?

Because guess what?

Dreams require a leap.
Not a step.
Not a slow shuffle forward.
A LEAP.

So here’s my new plan—No more Plan B.

I’m going all in. I’m using my mind the way it was meant to be used—to visualize, create, and expect success.