I have been married to preachers- TWICE. Nobody talked narcissism 50 years ago, which is when I first married a preacher. The second one had EVERYBODY fooled, including me. Until I just kept prodding and researching and reading everything I could find. These guys are very good at making the person they are talking to feel like the message is just for them. Sorta sad when I think about how much people give over their own lives in order to be part of the ' church"
I am sorry you had those horrible experiences. I no longer hold any anger towards any of it, but it took some years to release it. My passion is to use my art and my essays to engage others to take stock, consider their dreams. I believe dreams are our souls purpose, to urge us, to nudge us into something in particular.
Spot on! For me loosing the marriage didn't sting as much as the feeling of betrayal by the church. I grew up nurtured by my home church family. But once I became the preacher's wife, it all changed. Slowly, subtlety. I no longer had MY LIFE, I was theirs. I was only 18! For Gawds sake........... there was no grace, no compassion, etc. But through this I found new thought and began what is now 50 years of exploring, questioning and seeking. I do not regret any of that at all. I appreciate your encouragement. every day I see a young girl stepping into womanhood and I so wanta sit her down and say " listen, I have some things to tell you"............
I grew up with an abusive father in a Catholic family. My mother was proud that she stayed with my abusive father, because the church said she was obligated to. I was so happy when my father moved out finally when I was a teen. Domestic violence and child abuse are facilitated by religious organizations. Now nature is my church.
Golly that brainwashing is strong in the catholic church! There are millions of us who choose to honor, or worship without the confines of the " church""
I have two daughters. They are both fiercely independent WITHIN their successful marriages. Both are raising sons. I try- why opportunity is presented- to encourage them to raise their boys with the utmost respect for woman and to take time to understand. I can see they are doing that. When I think about the younger girls that are choosing to remain single, live frutifull and fun lives, I get excited. Those are the women who will institute powerful change in our gov't. And that's why I will always resist and do my part to not go along to get along with this maga bs. I live in the shadow of Liberty University, so you can imagine the BS that is spewed around here................
I don’t regret having two beautiful daughters and a beautiful granddaughter. If only it were easier for women to be safe and respected in relationships!
I have been married to preachers- TWICE. Nobody talked narcissism 50 years ago, which is when I first married a preacher. The second one had EVERYBODY fooled, including me. Until I just kept prodding and researching and reading everything I could find. These guys are very good at making the person they are talking to feel like the message is just for them. Sorta sad when I think about how much people give over their own lives in order to be part of the ' church"
I am sorry you had those horrible experiences. I no longer hold any anger towards any of it, but it took some years to release it. My passion is to use my art and my essays to engage others to take stock, consider their dreams. I believe dreams are our souls purpose, to urge us, to nudge us into something in particular.
Thank you for sharing and commenting. Hugs!
Spot on! For me loosing the marriage didn't sting as much as the feeling of betrayal by the church. I grew up nurtured by my home church family. But once I became the preacher's wife, it all changed. Slowly, subtlety. I no longer had MY LIFE, I was theirs. I was only 18! For Gawds sake........... there was no grace, no compassion, etc. But through this I found new thought and began what is now 50 years of exploring, questioning and seeking. I do not regret any of that at all. I appreciate your encouragement. every day I see a young girl stepping into womanhood and I so wanta sit her down and say " listen, I have some things to tell you"............
I grew up with an abusive father in a Catholic family. My mother was proud that she stayed with my abusive father, because the church said she was obligated to. I was so happy when my father moved out finally when I was a teen. Domestic violence and child abuse are facilitated by religious organizations. Now nature is my church.
Golly that brainwashing is strong in the catholic church! There are millions of us who choose to honor, or worship without the confines of the " church""
I have two daughters. They are both fiercely independent WITHIN their successful marriages. Both are raising sons. I try- why opportunity is presented- to encourage them to raise their boys with the utmost respect for woman and to take time to understand. I can see they are doing that. When I think about the younger girls that are choosing to remain single, live frutifull and fun lives, I get excited. Those are the women who will institute powerful change in our gov't. And that's why I will always resist and do my part to not go along to get along with this maga bs. I live in the shadow of Liberty University, so you can imagine the BS that is spewed around here................
I don’t regret having two beautiful daughters and a beautiful granddaughter. If only it were easier for women to be safe and respected in relationships!