I Spent a Year Teaching Women to Sit Still. Then Life Made Me Do It.

Two hours in an Uber. No music. No words. Just me, forced into the stillness I've been preaching. And wouldn't you know it — that's exactly when clarity showed up uninvited.

I Was Forced to Sit

I don’t know how to explain it except to say… I don’t really have anything to say today.

I’m not sad. I’m not spiraling. But I’m not exactly here yet either.

I’m somewhere between the airport and home, between who I was last week and who I’ll be next. Still recalibrating.

I came home yesterday from four days in Houston.

I saw my daughter for the first time in two years. She noticed the difference in me. The quiet. The way I don’t move quite like I used to.

It’s not that I’ve let myself go.

It’s that I’ve been holding so much for so long. Reinvention, reinvestment, recalibration — it all takes energy. And after days with people who drink and smoke and talk without pause, I was cooked.

My flight home had a seven-hour layover in Charlotte. Seven hours in an airport, just to board a 27-minute flight to Lynchburg. My daughter took one look at me and said no.

So we found a solution. Not perfect, not cheap, but doable:

We ordered me an Uber from Charlotte back to Lynchburg.

Two hours. No music. No talking. The driver didn’t say a word. Neither did I.

And for the first time in a long time — I just sat.

It hit me somewhere between Statesville and Hickory:

I’ve spent a year writing about sitting. Preaching about slowing down. Telling women to stop waiting and start listening.

And here I was… forced to do it.

No thoughts. No breakthroughs. Just fields, trees, the blur of movement. I looked out the window and let my brain be blank.

Not numb. Not gone. Just… still.

It was the kind of stillness that doesn’t ask for anything.

And from that stillness came one clear thing:

I want to build a compass for 2026.

I want to call it Maximize Your Life.

That was the only thought I had. And it didn’t come from effort. It came from quiet.

So today, I’m honoring that.

No big declarations. No productivity. Just the truth:

I’m here. I’m tired. I’m listening.

And something new is taking shape.

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We won’t map it perfectly.
We’ll just move. Together

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