I used to run every decision past three other people first. I don't anymore.

Here's what I learned about trusting myself

I’ve Been Forgetting Names for Forty Years

Have you ever forgotten someone’s name and immediately built an entire case against yourself out of it? Like one blank moment was proof you’re slipping, or getting older, or just not as sharp as you used to be?

Here’s my confession: I’ve been forgetting names since I was twenty-nine. Forty years of introducing myself to people I’ve met three times, forty years of that panicked half-second at parties. So whatever this is, it’s not an aging thing. It’s just a me thing. And I have a theory about why.

Last night, on a live I almost didn’t expect to go anywhere, that exact story turned into something bigger. It started with what Google apparently thinks it knows about me (that one’s just funny, no lesson there, don’t worry). But the names story is the one that cracked something open — because it’s never really been about names. It’s about how easily we let one small piece of evidence convince us we can’t trust ourselves.

So I did something I don’t usually do live. I pulled out my new booklet, Building Trust With Yourself, and walked everyone through the very first exercise in it — right there, on camera, unscripted.

I’m not going to tell you what it is here. I’ll just say it has nothing to do with magic or positive thinking, and everything to do with paying attention to your own experience instead of overriding it.

(Fair warning: I spend the first seven seconds just staring at the camera before I remember I’m supposed to talk. Hang in there. 😄)

Come watch. I think you’ll recognize more of yourself in it than you expect.

(BTW, if you want to use the closed captions, after you click on the vidoe link below, then click on the three little buttons at the bottom on the right side. )