I put it off for two years. Not because it was hard. But because it meant becoming someone I'd never been before. Just Monica. And I didn't know if I knew how to be her yet.
This captures something many women recognize but rarely name. The hardest part is not the paperwork, it is crossing the invisible line where an identity finally closes. That moment where freedom does not feel expansive yet, it feels quiet, final, and unfamiliar. The way you describe sitting with that silence, and realizing no one is coming to interrupt or define you anymore, is powerful. That is not loss. That is orientation.
There is nothing in the caterpillar that shows you what the butterfly will be like 🦋🫂🌅
This captures something many women recognize but rarely name. The hardest part is not the paperwork, it is crossing the invisible line where an identity finally closes. That moment where freedom does not feel expansive yet, it feels quiet, final, and unfamiliar. The way you describe sitting with that silence, and realizing no one is coming to interrupt or define you anymore, is powerful. That is not loss. That is orientation.
Bravo Monica Hebert 👏
this sounds like the kind of peace I need… one day…
And once you begin releasing your true self, it gets easier and easier to just keep going. Congratulations, Monica.