Learning to Listen to Yourself
I can’t tell you how many times I hear this:
“Oh, that’s good, Monica — why didn’t I think of that?”
or
“That’s brilliant, Monica — why didn’t I think of that?”
And here’s my honest answer:
Because most people spend their days filled up with other people’s thoughts.
They don’t make time to hear their own.
They scroll, they read, they react.
They fill every quiet moment with someone else’s noise.
And in the process, they lose touch with the one voice that actually knows what’s next — their own.
I’ve spent years practicing the art of listening to myself.
It’s not magic; it’s muscle. And! Sometimes it is hilarious! I find myself giggling, and just having a great big ol belly laugh at myself for some of the crazy thoughts that come rumbling through. Now mind you, it is not necessary to give every singel thought your time and attention.
When I walk away from the screen — phone, computer, whatever — my mind starts doing what it’s trained to do:
think about my life.
My choices.
My rhythm.
How I want to live this one wild, ridiculous, gorgeous day.
I’ve trained my attention to come home to me.
And that’s where my best ideas are born — not from scrolling, but from stillness.
I don’t let my mind be hijacked by the noise unless I choose it — unless I’m learning from a teacher I respect.
Otherwise, my mental space is sacred.
Because my thoughts? They’re powerful.
They build my art, my business, my peace.
I’ve become a student of myself — and it turns out, this has served me well.
Every day, I make discoveries.
Little ones. Big ones. Beautiful ones.
And today’s discovery?
The sheer delight of living without should — and only could.
So here’s your invitation:
Step away from the noise.
Listen to yourself.
And if you’re wondering where to start, try this:
Take one quiet ten-minute walk a day without your phone. No podcast, no music. Let your thoughts wander. That wandering is where self-thinking begins.
Ask yourself one question each morning: “What do I need today?” Then actually answer it — in writing, in the mirror, or out loud.
Notice what sparks a yes or a no in your body. That’s your intuition speaking. Start trusting those signals more than the opinions on your feed.
You’ll be amazed by what you find in that quiet space between everyone else’s voices —
your own brilliance, waiting to be heard.
I’ve created a free PDF of prompts to help you start listening — intentionally, actively — to your own thoughts about yourself.
Not what others think, not what the world says.
Just you, meeting you.
If you’d like it, message me or reply to this email, and I’ll send it directly to you. 💗
✨ Six Days Left — Bring Pink Angel Home
She came to life after five rounds of breathing — a burst of pink and gold that poured through me faster than I could think.
I didn’t paint her; she happened through me.
Her message is simple and fierce: “Seek ye joy.”
Pink Angel isn’t a perfect angel; she’s a celebration of balance inside imperfection — of every woman who’s learning to rise in her own rhythm. Her face holds many tones because she represents all of us.
For me, she’s proof that the quiet inner work works.
And for you, she can be a daily reminder to breathe, soften, and let joy find you again.
She’s available as a high-resolution digital print (8 × 10) for $45, but only for six more days.
Once she returns to my private collection, she won’t be offered again.
👉 Get Pink Angel before she flies home
Frame her. Gift her. Let her watch over your meditation corner or a granddaughter’s nursery.
Whatever you choose, let her remind you that joy appears the moment you decide to allow it
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Because here’s the truth: most women my age were taught to take care of everyone else’s story first.
We were never taught how to listen to our own.
And that’s the quiet ache I write for every single day.
Inside the paid circle, we go beyond the posts.
We talk. We gather. We practice trusting ourselves again — through story, breath, laughter, art, and honest conversation.
If something in these essays has been stirring you — if you’ve started remembering parts of yourself you thought were gone — then come closer.
That’s your invitation.
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