Reclaiming Dreams:

From Pity Party to Living in Color

How did a woman who spent 17 years married to a Christian minister, then ran off to New York City to marry a concert pianist for a decade, and later returned to her hometown to marry another Christian minister end up here, of all places?

And further, why should anyone listen to what she has to say?

These are the questions I often ask myself as I work to create a meaningful Substack for empty nesters who want to reclaim their dreams.

This work—serving as your guide—is deeply important to me because I know what it feels like to lose sight of your dreams. I also know how life can push you to rediscover them, often in the most unexpected ways.

A few years ago, I had no choice but to reclaim my dreams. After losing my investment in our family home and enduring three months of debilitating illness during the height of COVID, I was left with depleted resources and an uncertain future. At 66 years old, I faced a harsh reality: What the hell? I have to work hard again?

Yes, I had my pity party. But the rent didn’t care about my pity party, and I didn’t have the luxury of staying stuck.

That’s when everything shifted.

I began walking meditations—not because I wanted to, but because sitting still was unbearable with all the anxiety swirling inside me. As I walked, I spoke my meditations out loud. Over time, I added music, letting my steps fall into rhythm with the sounds.

Soon, other practices emerged. I’d stand by my desk and shake my body for 60 seconds to release heavy, dense energy—a quick reset that became invaluable. And then, I did something terrifying yet transformative: I sat with myself, in stillness, with no distractions. I listened to my mind without reacting. I listened to my soul.

It was in these moments of stillness that I began to rebuild my confidence and courage. The dream that emerged was simple: Make art, sell it—and do it on my terms. No art fairs. No festivals. Just me, my work, and the people who connected with it.

Now, I live that dream in vibrant technicolor. It’s not just a fantasy; it’s real. And the steps I took to get here? They’re ones you can take too, no matter where you are right now.

For now, please know this: I see you. I understand you. I’ve been exactly where you are.

You absolutely can create magic in your life and live your dream in full, living color.

Let’s take that journey together.