Spiritual people don’t get angry. That’s low vibe energy. So they say.

Get real: Sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is get righteously pissed at yourself for abandoning your own rhythm.

Lately I’ve been writing about coherence. But there’s another side nobody wants to talk about: ANGER.

In this very impromptu video, I explain my anger and why I’m damn glad I had it.

Oh no. I can hear the naysayers clutching their crystals: “Spiritual people don’t get angry. That’s low vibe energy.”

Bullshit.

The hell spiritual people don’t get angry. The authentic ones do.

The fake ones just slap a smile on it and call it “surrender.”

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Here’s the important part I want you to wrap your mind around:

1. Anger has information you need—and it’s not polite about delivering it.

That’s sorta the purpose. You get so riled up that you simply have to ask: Why am I feeling this? What the hell made me so angry?

The answer will absolutely inform your life.

In my case, it was building up for days. I felt unsettled but couldn’t name it. And the answer wasn’t a straight line—it took some twists, turns, and a full-blown explosion to get there.

2. Anger must be acknowledged—not varnished over with positive vibes.

Do NOT slap a shiny coat of spiritual bypass over it and call it “healing.”

Anger serves a purpose.

Its ultimate purpose is to clarify what’s paramount to your soul—and what your soul will absolutely not tolerate anymore.

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So, in my little trip down Anger Alley:

It all started when I sat down to do my 4-4-6 breath practice—the one I’d been skipping for two days because I got off rhythm.

I was about 2 minutes in when all of a sudden I exploded.

Not at anyone else. At myself.

For being a goddamn fraud.

Because it hit me like a freight train why I’d felt so disconnected for the past 6 days:

I gave in to “others’” thoughts about how I should live my day.

Now, a little background so my rage makes sense:

I have built a quiet, intentional life that includes time online with my readers, time at my easel, and time breathing/napping. It’s a steady rhythm that serves me supremely well. Domestic chores get woven in when they need to. No stress. No performing.

But last Wednesday, I caved. The well-wishers kept saying: “You need to get outside. You need fresh air. Sit in the sun while you can.”

So I did. Two hours on the patio. Felt virtuous about it.

And it wrecked my rhythm.

Of course, I didn’t recognize that at the time. I was too busy congratulating myself for being “healthy” and “social.”

But the ensuing days? I began to feel off. Not enough to name it, but it was there—lurking under the surface like a low-grade fever.

And with each passing day, it grew—until I finally blew up during my meditation.

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What exactly caused this explosion:

I TURNED MY BACK ON MY OWN SOUL TO PLAY NICE WITH WELL-MEANING FRIENDS.

I chose their idea of what’s good for me over my own lived experience of what actually keeps me coherent.

I ignored my rhythm—the one I built, the one that works, the one that keeps me regulated—because I felt guilty for not following the wellness checklist.

It may seem like a small thing. But it’s a glaring example of how subtly the “shoulds” sneak in and hijack your life.

Even when you know better.

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Once I realized this was the root of the anger, everything shifted.

I was able to turn that fire into good, powerful, sovereign energy that moved me swiftly through the rest of the day.

All of a sudden, items on my to-do list—like hiring a handyman—were swiftly resolved by a neighbor who volunteered.

All of a sudden, my desire to record video messages returned (that desire had been latent for weeks).

All of a sudden, I had this strong urge to reorganize and deep clean my kitchen.

Then I got on Amazon and bought some self-care products just for me—including a new foot tub massager that my feet are going to worship.

I would have done NONE of this if my anger hadn’t grabbed me by the collar, sat me down, and said: “Hey. Pay attention. You’re off track.”

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The anger is gone now.

And guess what? I returned to my breath practice, sat with my soul, and voilà—I’m back in full coherence.

Not because I “released” the anger with sage and affirmations.

Because I listened to it.

Because I let it do its job.

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So here’s what I want you to take away from this:

Anger isn’t the enemy.

Anger is the part of you that refuses to tolerate bullshit anymore.

It’s your soul saying: “We had a deal. You broke it. Fix it.”

Don’t varnish over it with positivity.
Don’t suppress it with spirituality.
Don’t apologize for it.

Let it inform you. Then let it move you.

Because sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do is get righteously pissed at yourself for abandoning your own rhythm.

And then come back.

Your soul’s been waiting.

if you recognized yourself breaking your own rhythm to play nice—you’re ready for what comes next.

I write about this every day in The Daily RE-WIRE. Not just naming the problem, but showing you how to return to yourself. How to build coherence. How to stop abandoning your rhythm for other people’s “shoulds.”

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This isn’t about adding more to your life.

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And staying there.

Your soul’s been waiting.

—Monica

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