What you have said here makes perfect sense to me. When I first retired I felt like a boat cut loose from it's mooring drifting in a storm.
I tried teaching, found out that portion of it, structured basic skills was so tedious and boring, but I stuck wth it because of the students and the ability to individualize some of it since it was also small class size.
Now that I am no longer doing that I at least realize that the world will keep spinning whether I am productive every day or not. Thank you for having this safe space to share with others who are on similar journeys!
Monica, please forgive me. After reading this post, I felt I must reread Hamlet's soliloquy, in modern English to better grasp the words.
After a lifetime of "to be or not to be", I can say I am simply happy to "be" in my retirement. I was weary of coming, going, doing, performing, assisting, yes-ing, driving, competing, apologizing...
Now, I simply am me, WWWWW&H I want to be. It has been a learned accomplishment. Oh what a joy! Haven't perfected this state as of yet, but little upsets the equilibrium of my life these days. Yes, I have frustrations. Yes, I still have challenges. Neither rock my boat as they once would have. No, I don't always win, but not everything is within my power or control. I face, I deal, then let it go.
You go, Lady! The women you reach may hear, and learn to "be" a whole lot faster from you sharing your vulnerability through where you walked on your journey to the you you are coming home to now!
Oh my goodness. This touched me more than you know.
Thank you for taking the time not only to read what I wrote, but to sit with it so deeply. And I love what you said about finally being happy simply to “be.” After decades of doing, performing, helping, pleasing, fixing, apologizing and carrying, there is something almost revolutionary about arriving at a place where being yourself is enough.
I especially loved this: that the little upsets no longer rock your boat the way they once did. That feels like one of the quiet gifts of this season of life. Not that nothing happens, but that we no longer have to hand everything the keys to the house.
And thank you for what you said about my sharing my own journey and vulnerabilities. That means a great deal to me, because if anything I write helps another woman come home to herself a little sooner, then I’m doing exactly what I hoped to do here.
Thank you for being here, and for this beautiful note. ❤️
We are on similar journeys, different paths, perhaps. You confirm to me, my lessons have not been in vain. When I feel my equilibrium slipping, and it does, I stop, pay attention, if needed, I throw a time limited pity party, then mentally walk away. I cannot be creative in that state. The solution often comes later when least expected. I need to be, and secondly, let "it" go.
You found a purpose and it lit you up. I watched it happen from your first posts to now. I am not arguing with you but I really need and want a purpose. I am 71, introverted, lonely, and I honestly need a reason to get up n the morning. I am not needed by anyone.
I’ve had many demanding and challenging jobs and retirement is partly peaceful and partly boring.
Recently, we talked about this in the Tuesday night, breakthrough group for paid subscribers to the daily rewire. I also got a few emails from professional women such as lawyers who were struggling with the same thing so I wrote a two page worksheet to begin to get clarity on . It is based on the way that I found my purpose which brought me to Substack in the first place. I think we have it backwards going out and looking for purpose. In my case, I made a determination or an intent about how I wanted to feel and live in my retirement years. It requires some real thinking and listening to your own spirit and as you write a statement of determination, the universe has the most uncanny way of bringing into your life situations and people who start dropping hits that show you where you should be putting your attention that will develop into a purpose.
Miguel, thank you. That means a great deal to me, especially because you put your finger on exactly what I was trying to say. I did not know where any of this would lead when I started. I only knew I wanted to follow what interested me and see what happened. The purpose came later. And somehow, here we all are. Thank you for seeing that, and for the very kind words about my writing.
What you have said here makes perfect sense to me. When I first retired I felt like a boat cut loose from it's mooring drifting in a storm.
I tried teaching, found out that portion of it, structured basic skills was so tedious and boring, but I stuck wth it because of the students and the ability to individualize some of it since it was also small class size.
Now that I am no longer doing that I at least realize that the world will keep spinning whether I am productive every day or not. Thank you for having this safe space to share with others who are on similar journeys!
Monica, please forgive me. After reading this post, I felt I must reread Hamlet's soliloquy, in modern English to better grasp the words.
After a lifetime of "to be or not to be", I can say I am simply happy to "be" in my retirement. I was weary of coming, going, doing, performing, assisting, yes-ing, driving, competing, apologizing...
Now, I simply am me, WWWWW&H I want to be. It has been a learned accomplishment. Oh what a joy! Haven't perfected this state as of yet, but little upsets the equilibrium of my life these days. Yes, I have frustrations. Yes, I still have challenges. Neither rock my boat as they once would have. No, I don't always win, but not everything is within my power or control. I face, I deal, then let it go.
You go, Lady! The women you reach may hear, and learn to "be" a whole lot faster from you sharing your vulnerability through where you walked on your journey to the you you are coming home to now!
Thank you for being Y-O-U.
Brava, more power to you!💐👏
Oh my goodness. This touched me more than you know.
Thank you for taking the time not only to read what I wrote, but to sit with it so deeply. And I love what you said about finally being happy simply to “be.” After decades of doing, performing, helping, pleasing, fixing, apologizing and carrying, there is something almost revolutionary about arriving at a place where being yourself is enough.
I especially loved this: that the little upsets no longer rock your boat the way they once did. That feels like one of the quiet gifts of this season of life. Not that nothing happens, but that we no longer have to hand everything the keys to the house.
And thank you for what you said about my sharing my own journey and vulnerabilities. That means a great deal to me, because if anything I write helps another woman come home to herself a little sooner, then I’m doing exactly what I hoped to do here.
Thank you for being here, and for this beautiful note. ❤️
Coming from you, your words mean so much to me.
We are on similar journeys, different paths, perhaps. You confirm to me, my lessons have not been in vain. When I feel my equilibrium slipping, and it does, I stop, pay attention, if needed, I throw a time limited pity party, then mentally walk away. I cannot be creative in that state. The solution often comes later when least expected. I need to be, and secondly, let "it" go.
Hugs. Thank you for being you.
Where is the perks section please.
https://www.monirosesoul.com/perks
You found a purpose and it lit you up. I watched it happen from your first posts to now. I am not arguing with you but I really need and want a purpose. I am 71, introverted, lonely, and I honestly need a reason to get up n the morning. I am not needed by anyone.
I’ve had many demanding and challenging jobs and retirement is partly peaceful and partly boring.
Recently, we talked about this in the Tuesday night, breakthrough group for paid subscribers to the daily rewire. I also got a few emails from professional women such as lawyers who were struggling with the same thing so I wrote a two page worksheet to begin to get clarity on . It is based on the way that I found my purpose which brought me to Substack in the first place. I think we have it backwards going out and looking for purpose. In my case, I made a determination or an intent about how I wanted to feel and live in my retirement years. It requires some real thinking and listening to your own spirit and as you write a statement of determination, the universe has the most uncanny way of bringing into your life situations and people who start dropping hits that show you where you should be putting your attention that will develop into a purpose.
Miguel, thank you. That means a great deal to me, especially because you put your finger on exactly what I was trying to say. I did not know where any of this would lead when I started. I only knew I wanted to follow what interested me and see what happened. The purpose came later. And somehow, here we all are. Thank you for seeing that, and for the very kind words about my writing.