This isn't a story about a car. It's about what happens when your brain recognizes something that was always yours.
Tears flowed when I saw that 1964 baby blue Mustang
My father's way of saying I love you. I wrecked it in six weeks. Some gifts you carry forever anyway.Your Brain Didn’t Retire. It Just Lost Its Wiring.
Okay, can I tell you something nobody told me about retirement?
Because I wish someone had said this to me around week three. You know that week — when the novelty has worn off and the open calendar stops feeling like freedom and starts feeling like a question you genuinely cannot answer?
That feeling?
Not a character flaw.
Neuroscience.
I know. Stay with me.
Here’s the thing about our brains after forty, fifty years of working life.
They got organized. Like, really organized. What needs to get done, who needs you, where you need to be, what’s expected of you before you’ve finished your first cup of coffee on a Monday morning.
That repetition — day after day, decade after decade — builds neural pathways. Strong ones. Automatic ones. The kind that fire whether you want them to or not.
Your brain got very, very good at organizing around that structure.
And then one day — the structure just... disappears.
And your brain doesn’t go oh wonderful, we’re free!
It goes: okay but what do I organize around now?
And this is where most of us get it wrong.
We think we feel lost because something is wrong with us. Because we’re not handling this the way we should. Because everyone else seems fine and here we are standing in our kitchen at 10am on a Tuesday genuinely not knowing what to do next.
Honey. No.
Your brain just lost its primary wiring system.
That’s it. That’s the whole thing.
And now something kicks in that you’ve probably heard before but maybe didn’t realize was literally true:
Use it or lose it.
Not a cute phrase. Not a motivational poster. That is actually how your brain works.
The pathways you stop using? They weaken. The ones you start using? They strengthen. And the ones that got crowded out by decades of obligation and other people’s needs and just surviving?
You now — right now, at this age, in this season — have the chance to build them.
So when I say we don’t retire, we ReWire — this is what I mean.
Not just thinking differently.
Using your brain differently.
Because whether you know it or not, your brain is asking you something right now:
What matters? What should I pay attention to? What do I build around next?
And your job — the real opportunity of this whole season — is to answer that question on purpose. Before your brain answers it by default.
Because it will answer it. One way or another.
If you sit, scroll, drift through the same safe routines every day — your brain organizes around that. And it gets quieter. Less curious. Smaller than it was.
But if you follow even a small curiosity — and I mean embarrassingly small, like I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to try that — your brain starts to reorganize.
Literally.
New input. New pathways. New questions that pull you forward instead of leaving you stuck in the kitchen at 10am.
Now here’s the part that really got me.
The most powerful new input isn’t random.
It’s not “try a new hobby” or “take a different walk” — though those aren’t wrong.
The input that rewires most deeply is the one that reconnects you to something that was already yours.
Because your brain doesn’t just respond to new experiences.
It responds to recognition.
Let me tell you what that looked like for me last weekend.
I was watching a movie. The subject doesn’t matter. What matters is the last scene — a mother rewards her nineteen-year-old son for turning his life around. Not with just any car.
A 1964 Mustang. Completely rebuilt. Inside and out.
And when that car came across my television screen —
I could not sit down.
I started crying. Got goosebumps. Could not be still.
Because when I was sixteen years old, my father gave me a 1964 baby blue Mustang.
I wrecked it six weeks later. But that’s not the point.
The point is — that car was the only time my father ever demonstrably told me he loved me. Set me apart from my siblings. Let me know that he saw me. That I was important. That I mattered to him specifically — not just as one of his children, but as me.
And fifty-some years later, a car on a television screen lit me up like a Christmas tree.
That’s recognition.
That’s a neural pathway that never went away — it just went quiet. Decades of quiet. And then one Saturday night it fired like it was 1970 and I was sixteen and my father was handing me the keys.
And here’s what happened next — because this is the part that matters:
I got energy.
Real energy. The kind that makes you move.
I got curious. Found a book I’d been meaning to read about herbs. Started looking things up. One curiosity led to another. I could not be still.
And now? I occasionally go online and look at pictures of 1964 baby blue Mustangs.
Just because it feels good.
That’s it. That’s the whole reason.
It feels good and I let it.
That’s what recognition does.
When your brain encounters something that was already true about you — something that got set aside, buried, crowded out by decades of obligation and other people’s needs — it fires.
Not gently. Not politely.
Like a Christmas tree.
And here’s what the neuroscience actually says about that moment:
Returning to a dormant passion doesn’t just feel good.
It reactivates pathways that have been quiet — sometimes for decades — and starts rebuilding the neural architecture of a self that got set aside.
That’s not poetry.
That’s biology.
Which means following that lit-up feeling isn’t indulgent.
It isn’t frivolous.
It isn’t something to do after everything important is handled.
It is the most direct route to a brain that stays curious, connected, and fully alive.
So here’s what I want you to do today.
Not ten things. Just one.
Think about what lit you up before you learned to want the right things. Before you got so good at being responsible that you forgot what it felt like to be alive in that particular way.
What was your 1964 baby blue Mustang?
Not the car. The feeling underneath it.
The moment you were seen. The thing that was specifically, unmistakably yours. The want that showed up before anyone had the chance to tell you to be practical.
Do one small thing in that direction today.
It doesn’t have to be significant.
It has to be true.
Notice what happens.
Notice if something in you wakes up even slightly.
That’s a new pathway forming.
That’s the beginning of the rewiring.
You are not done.
Your brain is not done.
And it will become — fully, completely, neurologically — whatever you use it for next.
So let’s use it for something that was always ours.
The dream you set down didn’t disappear.
It went quiet.
And your brain has been waiting — patiently, stubbornly, with the particular persistence of something that belongs to you and knows it — for you to come back and find it.
We don’t retire.
We ReWire.
And your 1964 Mustang?
It’s still out there.
Go look at the pictures.
Just because it feels good.
If something in this story stayed with you — if you felt the recognition before you felt the words for it — I want you to know there’s a place for that.
I’ve been quietly building something called the Monirose Soul Circle. It’s a small group of women who are done waiting for their life to feel like theirs again. Not a support group. Not a place to process pain, though we understand it. A place to think out loud with women who have lived enough to know what they’re talking about — and who want peers, not cheerleaders.
We share what’s true. We ask the real questions. We hold each other to the version of ourselves we’re trying to grow into, not the version we’ve been performing.
If you’re just beginning to understand that you’re allowed to want what you want — that’s exactly the right moment to come in.
You don’t need to have it figured out. You just need to be done pretending you don’t care.
Come see if it feels like home.
And if something in this piece made you pause, nod, or feel a little less alone — please give it a heart before you go. That one small tap tells the algorithm this conversation matters. It puts these words in front of another woman who needs to hear them today. She's out there. Help me find her.