They Told You to Have Faith
But Never Showed You How
They told you to have faith.
They told you to trust.
They told you to believe.
But did they ever actually show you how?
For 17 years as a minister's wife, I sat in those pews, listening. Nodding. Taking in every sermon about faith—how it could move mountains, how it could change my life.
But when the storms came? I realized something terrifying: I had no idea how to actually use my faith.
Like a good student of the faith, I studied, memorized scripture, and even had my favorite Bible verse. But no one ever actually taught me how to apply my faith.
What an odd situation. Preachers tell us to "have faith," but they don’t tell us how to have faith.
And that’s a problem. A big one.
For those who know me, this probably doesn’t surprise you—I question everything. Especially traditions handed down through seminaries, primarily attended by men who knew they wanted to preach but were never really taught how to empower the people in the pews to live boldly with faith.
That’s why so many people—especially in churches—struggle when life gets hard. Because they were never taught how to actually build and practice faith.
I saw this firsthand. My dad, who sat through the same sermons I did, gave me a blank stare when I asked him what faith really looked like beyond the words. He didn’t know.
He thought he had faith, but when life hit, he froze. Because faith had only ever been a sermon, a theory—not a tool.
The more I thought about it, the more I became infused with a deep desire to create a solution. Because now, I am a woman living with strong faith coupled with a powerful will. And maybe—just maybe—I could help others find that same strength.
I know I can’t be the only one who has read all the spiritual books in the New Thought movement—only to realize they all come down to the same damn thing: Have faith. Believe it. Envision it. It will happen.
But not one single book ever gives you the actual steps to building your own faith.
And let’s talk about hope. Oh, the way they taught me to have hope as a young person. Ha! What a crock, I have discovered.
Hope is NOT faith.
Faith is a damn muscle. And if you don’t work it, it’s weak.
But here’s the thing:
Faith is something you build.
It’s something you train.
It’s something you develop.
So when the storms hit, you don’t just hope you’ll make it—you know you will.
And that’s exactly what I’m here to teach you.
Because I refuse to let anyone else sit there, unprepared, waiting for faith to magically work when they were never given the steps to make it strong.
So tell me… did they ever actually show YOU how to build your faith? Or were you just told to believe and hope for the best?
Because here’s what I know: Faith isn’t just something you wait for—it’s something you train. And the good news? Once you know how, everything changes.
(More on that soon… but for now, just sit with this: What if faith wasn’t a mystery? What if it was a skill you could build, step by step?)
If this makes sense to you, maybe sharing it with folks you know is a good idea.
FAITH is a muscle to be strengthened.
That’s a powerful question. My answer is that most of the time, faith is presented as something you either have or don’t like an abstract concept rather than a skill to develop.
I’ve been told to believe, to trust, to have faith, but rarely was I given a clear, practical way to build it. It often felt like I was expected to just hope it would show up when I needed it most. But real faith. unshakable, grounded faith, doesn’t just appear. It takes conscious effort, practice, and experience.
I love the idea that faith is a muscle, something that can be trained and strengthened. That shifts the whole perspective from passively waiting to actively growing.