Ditch the gratitude list!

Because Gratitude Lists Got Nothing on This

I’m inviting you to walk into a reframing of your life—one truth, one reframe, one soul-deep step at a time. “ Walk IN”

I woke up today feeling off.
Not sad. Not anxious.
Just… off.

Sluggish. Slow. Blank.

And for a minute, I couldn’t place why.

I’d slept seven hours. Had my phone nearby in case I slipped going to the bathroom at 2 a.m. like any responsible almost-70-year-old woman. Sat in silence twice already.

Still, I felt low. Like my spirit hadn’t quite risen with the sun.

And then I remembered.

The sour cream.

Oh Lord, the pork rinds and the sour cream.

A whole tub of it.

Listen, I’ve done a lot of things I’m proud of in my life, but that wasn’t supposed to be one of them. Yet there I was yesterday, parked on my couch like a Queen on her throne of salt and saturated fat.

And you know what?

It didn’t take me down. I didn’t spiral. I didn’t shame myself into starting over.

Instead, I sat here this morning and started naming what did work.

Because maybe it wasn’t a perfect day, but it wasn’t a lost one either.

And I realized something:

Gratitude lists never moved the needle for me.

But reframing? Reframing gives me back my power.

So I made a new kind of list. Not a list of things I’m thankful for.

A list of things that went right. Even if I had to tilt my head and squint to see it.(reframe)

Here are just a few of them: I gather the evidence of aliveness,

• I didn’t spiral after eating like a teenager with no gallbladder. I laughed. I pivoted.

• Painted again, even when the equipment was frustrating. And I kept painting. That’s stamina in disguise. ( reframe)

• I danced in the studio with a paintbrush in hand. Not because it was exercise. Because it felt good.

• I sat still five times this week. Five! On purpose. For my peace.I have been meditating, sitting still, taking breaths—even when you didn’t feel like it. That’s a whole new level of discipline. Quiet bravery. ( see how reframing feels?)

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  I had a therapist buy my painting and email me to say how deeply my work speaks to her.

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  I ran into someone new this week, and now every time we see each other, he gives me the biggest hug and says, “No one greets me like that anymore.”

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  Someone gifted me fresh cucumbers and squash, no strings attached.
  I rode a golf cart for the first time. I didn’t love the heat, but I loved that I went.

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  I had the clarity to eat cheese and olives instead of chasing sugar when I couldn’t feel satiated. That’s a win for listening inward.( reframe)

• I sat through a hard day yesterday—and instead of pushing it away, I noticed it. ( reframe)
  
  

And here’s what happened after I made the list:

I felt a shift. I didn’t feel like I had to hustle to feel better. I didn’t feel like I had to go “save the day.”

I just felt… relief. Like I’d caught up to myself.

So here’s your invitation:

Forget the gratitude list for a minute. Try the Reframe List instead.

Call it your Soul Wins File if you want. Make it daily. Make it messy.

Just start with the question: *"What actually worked today?"*
Even if it looked weird.
Even if it started with pork rinds.

Then write it down. Not to perform for anyone. Not to post.
Just to remind yourself:

You’re doing better than you think.

And that? That’s a damn good start.

This post gave you one powerful tool. The resource kit gives you the rest. Start building faith in yourself again—and walk the path back to your dreams.