Monica Rose, learning to observe ourselves is the key component of every spiritual practice. You are demonstrating just how powerful it is observe our own patterns, to witness our own needs, and to apply the love and compassion of our hearts to our own becoming. You are demonstrating how important it is to include integration in the process of becoming. You are showing the necessity for the ground to remain fellow for a bit before planting new seeds. This is why your channel is so valuable. Thank you for helping so many to accept and support their own process without guilty judgment. Bless you, my dear.
(I woke up just this morning feeling regretful of and see-sawing back n forth over my weekend decision—to spend a rainy day at the Bonnie & Clyde museum 😆) when I could be catching up on work-type-stuff!!
***Ultimately, I KNOW little road trips always stir something free in me!!
You've nailed it Monica! This is the sustainability piece most high-performers miss. In a longer life, nervous system regulation becomes a strategic asset. Rest isn’t indulgence. It really is how you preserve creative capacity for decades instead of burning it out in sprints.
The power of Pause is infectious in a powerful way for me.
Pausing can give me perspective in my day, alter the course of my day, clear my mind and gives me blue skies. The pause may last 5 minutes up to an hour.
During my active time as a therapist I learned over time to give 15-30 minutes between appointments. My day was longer at my office…but I was more alert and tuned in more sharply to each client. The pauses affected my income though the added freshness of my mind was worth it.
My pausing grew from a life which was too fast for my physical and mental systems. I fought it for a while until it became time to make an adjustment for sanity. I went on several weekend retreats a year for longer pauses. I realize I was fortunate to live in circumstances which gave me peace of mind to do that though it didn’t come without guilt which took time to let go of. My daily life circumstances were stressful enough that the shorter and longer pauses made me more patient, happier and a more resourceful parent and therapist.
My pauses started a minute or 2 at a time and incrementally grew from there.
If you’re new to this please be patient with yourself. Stay with the pause and repeat often. Trust the process. ♥️
I took this to Heart… And tried to listen to what my body wanted. It wanted to go back to bed, which I did for about an hour and a half. And now I’m gonna go on a short hike and I’m gonna go slow… This is turning out to be a lovely day! Thank you!
Another brilliant piece! So much in there to unpack. What jumps out at me now are the ideas of resting integration. If we don’t integrate, we don’t learn and grow. It just becomes another box that we checked. I can see I have been a master at checking boxes!
Thanks for the insightful post and for speaking to the issues of productivity, performance, worthiness, etc., so much thrown at women.
I spent yesterday at a lovely museum with my dearest friend. Turns out it was an extremely crowded day there (tour busses, school kids, hardly room to see the gorgeous paintings)- so we left the exhibit and sat in the lovely dining space and talked for two hours. So many ways to enjoy a museum and make choices for ourselves. It was a fabulous day. Hope that you and your readers have one too. 🧡
Hmmmm, this resonates with me but haven’t figured out how to do it, working on it and that’s something I guess. My cousin just finished a grueling 12 weeks of cancer treatment followed by a double mastectomy at 72. She came through it like a trooper, very stoic, very focused, you know, let’s just get this done. She went for her first follow up with great results. But, instead of feeling up, she fell flat, no feelings. I think when you brace yourself, knowing you must go forward, then your goal meets you, there is the feeling of being let down even after such a big accomplishment.
Monica Rose, learning to observe ourselves is the key component of every spiritual practice. You are demonstrating just how powerful it is observe our own patterns, to witness our own needs, and to apply the love and compassion of our hearts to our own becoming. You are demonstrating how important it is to include integration in the process of becoming. You are showing the necessity for the ground to remain fellow for a bit before planting new seeds. This is why your channel is so valuable. Thank you for helping so many to accept and support their own process without guilty judgment. Bless you, my dear.
Thank you! I have so much trouble resting before the point of depletion.
Someone once told me that waiting can be very powerful.
I will do things differently today because of you. Thank you, again!
P.s. I ate leftover spaghetti and meatballs for breakfast. It was delicious.
I love that you show us all of it, including these course corrections you are given.
Oh Monica—I REALLY liked this.
(I woke up just this morning feeling regretful of and see-sawing back n forth over my weekend decision—to spend a rainy day at the Bonnie & Clyde museum 😆) when I could be catching up on work-type-stuff!!
***Ultimately, I KNOW little road trips always stir something free in me!!
You've nailed it Monica! This is the sustainability piece most high-performers miss. In a longer life, nervous system regulation becomes a strategic asset. Rest isn’t indulgence. It really is how you preserve creative capacity for decades instead of burning it out in sprints.
I really appreciated this post, Monica. This resonated with me.
Thank you, Monica Rose, for initially writing about pause. ♥️
The power of Pause is infectious in a powerful way for me.
Pausing can give me perspective in my day, alter the course of my day, clear my mind and gives me blue skies. The pause may last 5 minutes up to an hour.
During my active time as a therapist I learned over time to give 15-30 minutes between appointments. My day was longer at my office…but I was more alert and tuned in more sharply to each client. The pauses affected my income though the added freshness of my mind was worth it.
My pausing grew from a life which was too fast for my physical and mental systems. I fought it for a while until it became time to make an adjustment for sanity. I went on several weekend retreats a year for longer pauses. I realize I was fortunate to live in circumstances which gave me peace of mind to do that though it didn’t come without guilt which took time to let go of. My daily life circumstances were stressful enough that the shorter and longer pauses made me more patient, happier and a more resourceful parent and therapist.
My pauses started a minute or 2 at a time and incrementally grew from there.
If you’re new to this please be patient with yourself. Stay with the pause and repeat often. Trust the process. ♥️
The power of Pause is
Wait! How did I miss Part 2 and 3?
I took this to Heart… And tried to listen to what my body wanted. It wanted to go back to bed, which I did for about an hour and a half. And now I’m gonna go on a short hike and I’m gonna go slow… This is turning out to be a lovely day! Thank you!
Another brilliant piece! So much in there to unpack. What jumps out at me now are the ideas of resting integration. If we don’t integrate, we don’t learn and grow. It just becomes another box that we checked. I can see I have been a master at checking boxes!
Thanks for the insightful post and for speaking to the issues of productivity, performance, worthiness, etc., so much thrown at women.
I spent yesterday at a lovely museum with my dearest friend. Turns out it was an extremely crowded day there (tour busses, school kids, hardly room to see the gorgeous paintings)- so we left the exhibit and sat in the lovely dining space and talked for two hours. So many ways to enjoy a museum and make choices for ourselves. It was a fabulous day. Hope that you and your readers have one too. 🧡
Thank you Monica!
Hmmmm, this resonates with me but haven’t figured out how to do it, working on it and that’s something I guess. My cousin just finished a grueling 12 weeks of cancer treatment followed by a double mastectomy at 72. She came through it like a trooper, very stoic, very focused, you know, let’s just get this done. She went for her first follow up with great results. But, instead of feeling up, she fell flat, no feelings. I think when you brace yourself, knowing you must go forward, then your goal meets you, there is the feeling of being let down even after such a big accomplishment.