The bottom line of all your teaching that I see, Moni Rose, is authenticity. Uncovering the thought forms that have kept women from being true to themselves. It is so exciting to have you modeling that being authentic does not mean you’re not being loving. You’re simply choosing how that love is expressed. Thank you.
I tend to tell my daughter yes way more than I should. She will be 18 in two weeks so breaking this habit now has been tough due to expectations. I will keep pushing on but have notice a huge relief when I release trapped emotions in relation to the obligation idea. I learned this from Bradley Nelson’s Emotion code (listen for free on yt)
Yes, I have been here. I am not a grandma...yet...and hope not for another 3-4 years while my kids establish careers and then partners, but...my nephew is only eleven.
My sister is six years younger than I am and was my responsibility growing up. I started to get to know her as a person when I was 27 and she turned 21. I lover her but we are very differenent people. I am very organized ad scheduled. She had reluctantly it seemed, learn these skills and place her son before her love and natural instincts with caring for her dog. When he was about 3 she wanted to start her life back up as a pilates instructor. I had kids in college and high shcool and had just begun my REWIRE and was volunteering and painting for a non profit. I had a rhythum to my life . I love Aidan and still do. But at about this time they wanted to pay me to take him on 2-3 days a week. I had already spent his first 3 years taking him to the park and to places because his parents hardly ever did. His name for me was "Aunt Go Go" for years until he was about 10, because he didn't know my name when he was almost a year old, but I came over I was always ready to play or do crafts or go to the park ,...go go go. He would ask if " Go Go" was coming over ...it stuck. Long story short, I felt my sister and her partner needed to learn how to parent on their own and it sometimes felt they were just looking for someone to do it for them. They were unscheduled, not communicating well, late and disorganized about even arriving to family functions. I saw the writing on the wall. I am glad I dd because I ket carving out a new life for myself and never looked back. I learned how to create boundaries with all of my families members and start asking for support. I stopped being the only location for birthdays and holidays once other sibling had homes and although some of that has slipped again ( my house is the destination by choice ) ...but i did begin learning desire versus obligation about 8 years ago.
The bottom line of all your teaching that I see, Moni Rose, is authenticity. Uncovering the thought forms that have kept women from being true to themselves. It is so exciting to have you modeling that being authentic does not mean you’re not being loving. You’re simply choosing how that love is expressed. Thank you.
This is a GREAT one.
I’ll be returning to this often because it applies to many things as well as grandchildren.
Thanks Monica!
Nailed it! And I agree with @ Mary Fitzgerald….im not a grandma, but completely recognized the responses! Heck…I’ve been doing it with my grandDOG!!
You can tell he really loves his grandma!
I tend to tell my daughter yes way more than I should. She will be 18 in two weeks so breaking this habit now has been tough due to expectations. I will keep pushing on but have notice a huge relief when I release trapped emotions in relation to the obligation idea. I learned this from Bradley Nelson’s Emotion code (listen for free on yt)
Yes, I have been here. I am not a grandma...yet...and hope not for another 3-4 years while my kids establish careers and then partners, but...my nephew is only eleven.
My sister is six years younger than I am and was my responsibility growing up. I started to get to know her as a person when I was 27 and she turned 21. I lover her but we are very differenent people. I am very organized ad scheduled. She had reluctantly it seemed, learn these skills and place her son before her love and natural instincts with caring for her dog. When he was about 3 she wanted to start her life back up as a pilates instructor. I had kids in college and high shcool and had just begun my REWIRE and was volunteering and painting for a non profit. I had a rhythum to my life . I love Aidan and still do. But at about this time they wanted to pay me to take him on 2-3 days a week. I had already spent his first 3 years taking him to the park and to places because his parents hardly ever did. His name for me was "Aunt Go Go" for years until he was about 10, because he didn't know my name when he was almost a year old, but I came over I was always ready to play or do crafts or go to the park ,...go go go. He would ask if " Go Go" was coming over ...it stuck. Long story short, I felt my sister and her partner needed to learn how to parent on their own and it sometimes felt they were just looking for someone to do it for them. They were unscheduled, not communicating well, late and disorganized about even arriving to family functions. I saw the writing on the wall. I am glad I dd because I ket carving out a new life for myself and never looked back. I learned how to create boundaries with all of my families members and start asking for support. I stopped being the only location for birthdays and holidays once other sibling had homes and although some of that has slipped again ( my house is the destination by choice ) ...but i did begin learning desire versus obligation about 8 years ago.
Hmmm. We seem to have the opposite problem. No matter how available we make ourselves, we are never asked. 😞