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Linda Bretherton MA's avatar

Honestly i hear you at 75 , we had been bombarded with , how to age properly, my speciality was is Ayurveda and I write a lot about this. Rasayana is the concept that the ancient sages discussed when looking at age and how we simply live our most vital lives ... its what I follow. Nice to meet you ☸️

Reta Muasau's avatar

I've missed reading your inspiring posts! I'm enjoying a very full life and when I slow down, I come here to you and Substack. Thanks so much for all your insight here. I'm taking it to heart and will re-read this one for sure. 👍🏽

Monica Hebert's avatar

Reta, this made me smile. I love that you come back when life gives you a little breathing room. ❤️

Reta Muasau's avatar

I look forward to more from you and appreciate your willingness to help the rest of us be our best, true selves. And that's enough 💖. Have a beautiful day Monica ✨.

Kirsten Marion's avatar

I can't tell you how deeply this resonated with me this morning, Monica! I'm so tired of feeling like I need to constantly be striving. I had forty years of corporate life for that! Surely by 71 we're at the point where we can just be ourselves and do what we enjoy doing without fear of judgement! Thanks again for a very thoughtful article.

Bibi Grace Sinclair's avatar

"There is no gold medal for Best Retired Woman." Correct, and if there were, the trophy would just be another thing somebody expected us to dust. 🍒

Jacqueline Crandall's avatar

Thank you!

Sophie Davidson's avatar

Wow do l hear you. Even when not retired ✨

Jeanne L's avatar

Condemned Building? I started laughing. Good one again Monica.🤭

Paulette's avatar

Thanks, Monica —- you hit the nail on the head with this one, plus giving me a laugh. Thanks for brightening my morning, and helping me shift my thinking from a very, very old pattern. 🧡

Dianavr.26's avatar

Even though I am nowhere near retired, I do recognize myself in what you write. While struggling with expectations - both external and internalised - and just doing what needs to be done on a daily basis, I try to take small steps to get back to myself, my needs and wants. There is so much noise everywhere. Also inside myself. When I read up on (new) subjects, I start to question whether the longing that I feel is truly my own or whether I internalised what I read. It keeps me stuck, that is what I know/feel to be true. And I no longer want that for myself.

Diane's avatar

Wickedly wise and wonderful. This is one I'm printing and putting up on my refrigerator with highlights and maybe a note or two to self. Feeling the light through the ether.

Jess Millar's avatar

Hi Monica! You had mentioned something about a questionnaire that can help us figure out where our curiosity can lead us? $17? Is this still being offered? Thank You for everything you do and a belated very Happy Birthday : )

Monica Hebert's avatar

Hi Jess, here’s the link to the PDF - Re-Foundation. However it is $27 via gumroad. You may be interested in the full annual subscription bc that gets you the Re-Foundation Rescource at no cost and until midnight tonight, Sept 14 annual subs are offered with a 31% discount . https://monirose.gumroad.com/l/refoundation