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Monica Hebert's avatar

What would your younger self be delighted to see you doing today?

Mary O'Driscoll's avatar

I think of myself in my mid-20s, the age of my own daughters now and the last time I was single.

Twenty-something me would be thrilled to see me just being happier than I have been in years because I'm living the way I want to live, no second guessing.

Yes, my husband of 30 years died. Yes, that did trigger three years of counseling to understand what I had been through -- and to reconcile a couple of other things that had been rattling around in my head.

But I emerged stronger and more sure of myself and what I want, and more confident than ever in my own skin.

I love the life I'm building in retirement. I am expressing myself in ways I never had before -- and shocking some people (older, stick-in-the-mud brothers who never liked my approach to life anyway) in the process.

I am proud that I can do this for myself and be a role model for my own daughters, showing them you are never too old to reinvent yourself.

Monica Hebert's avatar

Oh, I love this so much — your younger self must be standing there with her hands on her hips saying, “Well it’s about damn time!”

What you’ve written here is exactly the spirit of what I want women to know — that reinvention isn’t rebellion, it’s remembering. You’re not breaking rules, you’re breaking free.

And the fact that your daughters get to see you doing this? That’s legacy work right there. 🩷

We don’t retire, we rewire™ — and you’re living proof.

Anitra Carol Smith's avatar

this is a beautiful statement Mary. I back you up all the way.

And perhaps you should consider it a compliment that You have shaken upthose brothers who want you to sit quietly and fold your hands in your lap and Go along with the program. Ha ha ha.