When you feel like you're unraveling (you're not)

If you've been feeling unlike yourself lately, this might be why

Out of coherence looks like this. (Don't worry—you can turn yourself right-side up again.

Last weekend I didn’t feel sad.

I felt scattered. Ungrounded. Off.

My thoughts were noisy. My body felt foggy. My usual sense of internal steadiness was gone. And for a moment, I worried I was becoming someone else entirely—someone depressed, someone lost.

But it wasn’t any of that.

I was just out of coherence.

The Moment I Knew

I know this because yesterday , late this afternoon, I took the whole thing off.

No productivity. No fixing. No meditation, even.

And yet I found myself in a quiet, regulated place anyway. I was imagining a simple day—walking back from the YMCA , lollygagging, feeling the warmth of the sun on my skin. Running into neighbors. Stopping to talk. Checking in. Lingering.

No urgency. None.

Just appreciation, moment by moment, for being alive inside a day.

And that’s when it hit me: I used to live like that. Until this weekend.

That contrast told me everything.

What Coherence Actually Means

Coherence is when your head, your heart, and your gut are in sync.

Your thoughts aren’t fighting your feelings. Your feelings aren’t flooding your system. Your instincts aren’t being overridden or ignored.

It’s not perfection. It’s internal agreement.

Your head wants a plan. Your heart wants connection. Your gut wants clarity.

When those three are moving together, you feel grounded even when the world is loud. You can be present without bracing. You can respond instead of react.

But when they get pulled in different directions? It feels like you’re unraveling.

That’s what happened to me.

How I Lost It (And Maybe You Did Too)

Watching national trauma unfold last weekend quietly hijacked my nervous system. I didn’t register it as fear or grief at first. It just pulled me outward—into worry loops, into scanning, into absorbing what wasn’t mine to carry.

The fog wasn’t random. My system had been pulled into a collective emotional field, and I hadn’t come home yet.

Naming that changed everything.

I wasn’t broken. I wasn’t depressed. I wasn’t losing myself.

I was simply out of sync with myself.

And the relief in realizing that was immediate.

If You’ve Been Feeling Off Lately

If you’ve been feeling scattered, reactive, numb, or unusually tired—it might not be you.

It might be your coherence.

The world has a way of pulling us out of our rhythm without us noticing. A news story. A difficult conversation. An ambient anxiety we can’t quite name.

We absorb it. We carry it. And suddenly we’re not quite ourselves anymore.

But here’s the good news: Coherence isn’t something you manufacture. It’s something you return to.

Like coming home after being away too long. The door is still there. The key still fits.

You don’t have to fix yourself. You just have to remember where you left yourself—and go back.

A Way Back

I’ve created a Coherence Guide to help you do exactly that. Not as a fix. Not as a performance. But as a remembering.

A way to bring your head, heart, and gut back into conversation so you can feel like yourself again.

If this resonated, the guide is there for you.

Come back. Breathe. Your rhythm is still intact.

I’m walking this road with you.

With love,
Monica

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I didn’t make Coherence Return to sell something.

I made it because I lived through something.

Last weekend, my nervous system was hijacked. Not just by grief—but by the emotional storm of collective fear, media noise, helplessness.

It spun me out. Quietly.
And when I came back into myself, I realized what I needed was not a plan or a mantra—
I needed to come back into coherence.

This isn’t a product. It’s a lifeline.
And I’m sharing it here, in full, for anyone who needs it

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