Why more women over 60 are choosing solitude over settling.

Because some of us over 60 would rather be alone than shrink ourselves one more damn time.

I saw a photo f a local drum circle—something I used to be part of 30 years ago. For a brief second, I felt the tug: Maybe I’ll go. That might be fun. But just as quickly, the truth answered back: No. I’m not doing that. Not because I can’t. But because I won’t.

See, the woman I am now doesn’t move out of nostalgia or habit. She moves from discernment. And when I looked at that photo again, I realized what I really felt was a deep, bone-level disinterest in surrounding myself with people who are content to live a pleasant, well-intentioned, deeply mediocre life.

They’re not bad people. They’re not doing anything wrong. But they are doing what most people do—circling around the same half-lit campfire, repeating affirmations, waiting for something to feel better instead of building something that actually is.

And me? I’m not circling anymore. I’m reaching. Reaching for the stars.

Because here's what no one tells you: when you walk away from mediocrity—when you stop doing things just because “community is important” or “you need people”—you start discovering a completely different level of yourself.

• Your ideas get bolder.

• Your joy deepens.

• Your energy becomes precise.

• Your standards sharpen to a blade.
  

And yes, for a while I worried that made me… odd. Or lonely. Or “unsafe” in the eyes of wellness experts who say regular social contact is a non-negotiable for health and happiness.

But here’s what I know now:
I have social contact.
It’s just sporadic, sovereign, and sacred.
It’s chosen.
It’s not driven by fear of being alone—it’s driven by deep satisfaction in my own presence.

In fact, I’ve grown so rooted in this state of soul-rich solitude that I’ve become almost protective of it. I’m not even sure I’d want a plumber in my house right now—and I don’t even need a plumber. That’s how delicious this stillness is.

And before anyone misreads this: I know I can manifest more like-minded people when I want to. When I’m ready, they’ll appear.
Because my frequency is clean now. I’m not leaking energy in forced social circles or dragging around the weight of “should.”

So no—I’m not anti-people.
I’m anti-dilution and am uninterested in shrinking, tolerating, softening, or pretending.
If my standards make me a snob, then pour me a glass of red and crown me Queen of the High Bar.

Because I’ve tasted what life feels like when you reach for the stars.
And once you taste that, anything less just feels like… noise.

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