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Alice Wild's avatar

I loved this line “See, the woman I am now doesn’t move out of nostalgia or habit. She moves from discernment.”

What a powerful woman. ❤️

Gleaning from your words to empower myself, I would say to myself, something like:

“The woman I am now doesn’t move out of fear, conditioning or hopelessness. She moves from discernment—from agency, freedom and creates her own hope.”

Thank you for this. ❤️

What an empowering post!

Monica Hebert's avatar

. That’s the evolution, isn’t it? No longer moving from fear or programming, but from deep-rooted agency and freedom. I love how you took my words and made them your own—this is what real soul conversation looks like. Thank you for meeting me here.

The Ex Narc Magnet's avatar

I hit that point aged 51. It’s been a whole year of peace, and I refuse to give it up! 🫶🏻

Monica Hebert's avatar

YES! Once you taste that kind of peace, there’s no going back. It’s not just a phase—it’s a full-blown lifestyle upgrade. Proud of you for protecting it!

Arynetta's avatar

Well THIS was a delight to wake up to and read this morning.

Monica Hebert's avatar

That makes me smile—what a lovely way to start the day, for both of us. Here’s to choosing what actually nourishes us, even if it means walking a quieter road. I’m so glad this found you this morning.

YourBonusMom's avatar

THIS. I’m under 60 but this is my whole mood right now.

Kay Backhouse's avatar

Yes, yes and yes 🙌🏻 🤍

Elizabeth  McGaughran's avatar

I have been feeling like this for over a year. I'll be 50 in October. It is wonderful to hear that I am not alone in wanting to be alone. Thank you for sharing your amazing outlook on life!!

Monica Hebert's avatar

I love this! What a beautiful threshold you're standing at. Isn’t it wild how liberating it feels to finally want your own company? You are absolutely not alone in wanting to be alone… and honestly, that kind of solitude is sacred. I’m so glad this resonated with you. Welcome to the delicious quiet.

Ruth Urman's avatar

Dear Monica, I could easily have written this myself… a few months ago I turned 70. My tightly embraced discernment is with everyone and everything. I love it! I love the confidence and self assured freedom that comes with it. It’s amaaaazing.

Monica Hebert's avatar

Isn’t it the most liberating shift? That deep confidence, the ease, the zero-need-to-explain-anything energy… it’s delicious. Here’s to the freedom that comes with 70—and to women like you lighting the way!

Ruth Urman's avatar

YES

Vicki Robin's avatar

Monica, commenting today on an old post. I read your posts and marvel at how you steer out of doldrums and giving a boot to constricting thoughts. I became a paid subscriber as a thank you and also i'm now in my 80s and feel myself shrinking to fit what i think I may become not too long from now. I want to rewire and my subscription is a commitment to myself. I can ask myself what is one thing, thought, action, that can interrupt the habits of mind. you remind me of that every day. i lived alone from 60 on. I loved it. the freedom. from adapting to others, to zig zag wherever I chose. But just a month ago,, I hit a wall. I think singing is my painting.